Play the Part : Master Body Signals to connect and communiate for business successBrand-new, Paperback
The Secret Tecniques Of Communication Skills For Great Communicators, Professional Speakers, And C-Level Executives
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Longtime TED speaker coach :Gina Barnett
Every body tells a story .
Is yours telling the one you want?
From the moment a professional stands behind a podium or at the head of a conference table you sense that speaker’s authority, passion, knowledge, confidence – or lack thereof.
Immediately, you create a narrative, a story. It’s not a story about shape or size, gender or height.
From the moment an actor steps on stage, an audience collectively feels whether his or her performance is authentic, forced, or over the top. Business professionals are also performers―and the workplace is their stage.
Actors master techniques that enable them to move audiences. For you the workplace is your stage and the competition can be fierce.
How can you learn the skills needed to connect with clients, colleagues, and managers with clarity and composure? How can you master communication excellence and embody the story you want to convey?
In Play the Part, executive communication consultant Gina Barnett brings the same techniques actors use to bear on all types of presentation and communication situations, from the board room to the conference stage.
She reveals how the body affects our communication and thought patterns and how to align these consistently for maximum success.
Simply being in the right mental state can do wonders for your performance, Gina Barnett says.
Featuring practical exercises, she shows you how to develop presence and become more intuitive, so you can navigate challenging communication situations with optimal results.
We already know that body language gives off non-verbal queues and that we react to these queues whether we realize it or not. And no one ever fully explained how much it can affect us in the business realm.
Top 3 Public Speaking Tricks :
Drawing on her experiences, Barnett, who has also been coaching TED speakers for the past five years, wrote this book, she spoke with Inc. about some not-so-intuitive rules to remember about public speaking.
① It’s About Being You :
Delivering a compelling presentation is less about channeling Steve Jobs than it is about being your authentic self. If you aren’t confident in your public speaking abilities, then being you in front of an audience probably sounds like a bad plan. But the idea is to act like yourself without the fear and anxiety that commonly come with public speaking.
“The challenge for many people is they get freaked out,” Barnett says. “They get hijacked by their amygdala. They’re pumped full of adrenaline, and they don’t breathe and they get shaky. They just dampen down their personality. And the question becomes, how do you then mitigate that? How do you learn to work through that so that you’re you?”
Barnett says that breathing, positive thinking, and other exercises will all help. But becoming comfortable speaking in front of others ultimately takes lots of practice.
② No One Wants to See You Bomb :
A common sentiment among public speakers is that the audience is the enemy, Barnett says. But that’s far from reality. “Audiences really cannot bear to watch somebody fail on stage. It’s painful,” she says.
True, you’ll be judged, and sometimes harshly. But rather than focusing on what the audience is thinking, Barnett recommends reminding yourself why you’re there to begin with: “They need to hear what I have to say. That’s why they’re in the room.”
“They may challenge you,” Barnett says. “They may disagree with you. They may have diametrically opposed political or economic views. But they don’t want to watch you suffer up there.”
③ Leave the Past in the Past :
Each public speaking event rarely feels like a fresh start. Memories from past presentations–usually the bad ones–and even other traumatic events can creep into your psyche.
“The body houses our history and the lives that we’ve led–culturally, gender issues, emotional challenges, psychological trauma, physical trauma, any accidents we’ve had,” Barnett says. “These things really do not just vanish. They go into how we move and think and operate.”
For example, one of her clients was delivering a business presentation when she looked like she was going to faint and had to lie down on the floor. Fortunately, the client was able to compose herself later and deliver the talk.
When Barnett asked her what had gone wrong, she replied that she had suddenly felt as if she was back in 10th grade being scrutinized by her horrifying teacher.
“We carry this stuff,” Barnett says. The key is recognizing it so these memories don’t surface during high-stakes moments.
This book takes it further and tells you how you are potentially hindering your own success by giving off non-verbal queues of self doubt or low self esteem and how managers and other professionals can react to those queues in their decisions to do business with us.
You worked hard to earn your title. Now it’s time to play the part.
PLAY THE PART introduces professionals of all levels – from aspiring managers to CEOs – to the body as an instrument.
Delving into the concept of embodiment, the book explores such things as how pace, posture, gestures, walks, and facial expression impact not only your emotions but those of your audience.
Offering over one-hundred easy and playful exercises, you will discover how making the slightest physical adjustments can profoundly impact your leadership presence.
➽ We all know our emotions impact our bodies, but do you know that by just changing your body you can impact your emotions?
➽ Thoughts become manifest. Are your thoughts as habitual as your hand gestures, and are they serving you now?
➽ As the world becomes increasing virtual how do we connect across time zones and cultures?
➽ Why is the design of a presentation as important as its overall content?
➽Why leadership presence is a skill not a mystery, and how to get it..
A TED speaker coach shares 11 tips for right before you go on stage：
1. Start drinking water 15 minutes before you start talking. If you tend to get dry mouth — that scratchy feeling where it’s hard to swallow — start drinking water 15 minutes before you go onstage. Why? Because the microphone will pick up that sticky, clicky sound. “When you close your mouth, don’t let your tongue hit the roof of your mouth,” Barnett offers as a pro tip to avoid popping audio. “Imagine a half a plum on your tongue, which will keep a vacuum from forming.”
2. Psych yourself up, not out. Barnett warns that negative self-talk can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. So don’t stand backstage thinking, “What if I mess up?” Think more like an athlete before a big game, she says. Psych yourself up with phrases like, “I’m so excited!” “It’ll be great!” “I can’t wait to share this idea!” Basically, whatever key phrase makes you feel happy. “Even just thinking the word ‘YES!’ over and over — feel how the thought enters your body and boosts your confidence,” she says.
3. Use your body’s nervous energy for good. Don’t try to contain all your nervous energy. Let it move through you and energize you for your talk. Do isometrics while you waiting backstage if it helps. Shake your hands out. Barnett remembers one TED speaker who found a private corner backstage to put on headphones and dance — and that speaker walked onstage feeling like a rockstar. And, if nothing else, always remember TED star Amy Cuddy and how to power pose.
4. Focus on your breath when you feel the adrenaline. What should you do if you feel the panic of nerves? “Breeeeeathe,” says Barnett, extending the sound. “Weʼre often not aware of how shallow our breath becomes when weʼre nervous or stressed.” The exercise Barnett recommends: “Take three or four conscious, evenly-paced, smooth inhalations and exhalations. Let the belly go and let the breath go all the way down into your abdomen. This can center your energy and focus your thoughts.”
5. Beware of repetitive motion. On stage, people often deal with adrenaline by unconsciously swaying or shifting their weight from foot to foot. This is not good. “Repetitive movements are distracting and set up a lullaby pattern in the audience’s brain,” says Barnett. The best way to make sure you aren’t doing this? Rehearse in front of people, who can point it out to you. And also rehearse out loud in front of a mirror to self-diagnose.
6. Think about how to use movement wisely. “You can walk,” says Barnett, “but not pace. You can step forward and or back, but not rock.” These are just as bad as swaying — they create that lull. Barnett has a great tip for how to make sure that you move in a way that adds to your talk rather than detracts from it. “Practice moving to make a new point,” she says. “Try coming closer to the audience when the content of your talk calls for it.” One technique she likes for this — rehearse while standing on newspapers spread out on the floor. You’ll be able to hear your movement as the paper crunches so you can really move “with intention and purpose.”
7. Use your tone to strengthen your words. Merge your tone with the topic of your speech, says Barnett. Don’t deliver great news in a monotone voice or serious news too excitedly, as disjunctions like that will distract the audience. Barnett recommends going through your script and tagging what each piece of news means. By doing that, you can focus on how your tone can strengthen the message, rather than undermine what you are trying to get across.
8. Give people a chance to adjust to your accent. Everyone has an accent — at least, when someone else is listening. Luckily, TED has a global audience and is very comfortable with hearing different varieties of speech. That said, speakers can make their accents more accessible to listeners all over the world. Barnett’s advice: keep your opening sentences slow and over-enunciated, so the audience can adapt to the way you speak. “Our ears are trained to adjust to accents,” says Barnett.
9. Focus on something outside of yourself. Barnett has a favorite exercise for someone who is just about to go onstage: she calls it “focusing out.” She explains: “Pick anything — like the color green — and look all around you to see where you spot it in the room. Or pick an object to observe. Notice what shoes people are wearing, or whoʼs wearing a watch. Or try paying attention to how light reflects off surfaces.” Doing something like this will shift the focus from what’s going on in your body and mind to something outside. It can definitely help you relax.
10. Remember that the audience likes you. As Barnett says, “The TED audience — as big, scary and remote as they may seem — is totally on your side. They want you to have a good time up there, they want to hear your ideas, even if they don’t agree with them, and they want you to succeed.” Enough said.
11. And finally, no matter how well you prepare — be okay with the unexpected. You may forget a word; someone may drop something backstage; there might be a technical difficulty. Take a moment, breathe deeply and just roll with it. As one TED speaker laughed today as her slides spiraled out of order in rehearsal: “It’s just about having fun, right?”
Play the Part is absolutely packed with helpful information and exercises to undo bad physical habits or begin new good ones. However, Barnett says right from the start that the point of this book isn’t to teach people to pretend or act.
Instead, she says her aim is to show people how to change whatever quirky mannerisms might be preventing them from connecting with others. It’s about becoming aware of your body, listening to it, and then understanding how you come across to everyone else.
About the Author
Gina Barnett is the founder of Barnett International, Inc., an executive communications consulting firm. She’s coached and consulted with thought leaders in finance, technology, healthcare, science, and the arts. Since 2011, she’s been speaker coach for the main stage TED Conference.
Gina Barnett began studying acting at age nine, was acting professionally by her early twenties. She began coaching professional actors herself while in her late twenties. Since 2011 she’s been speaker coach for the mainstage TED Conference.
She works, writes, plays – as well as writes plays – in New York, where she and her husband live.